People who are trading on your need for belonging at any cost, and especially looking for those who have a low self esteem and are in crisis and thereby swayed readily by peer groups. They will rely on your need for validation and affirmation to draw you into their web of lies and deceit.You can spot them easily. They use arguments employing one or more of the following lies, in the form of “they might be a dick ”
1: If they think that cis has something to do with liking your body
2: If they think that cis has something to do with the clothes you wear or makeup
3: if they think that being trans has something to do with liking your body.
4: if they think that beings trans has something to do with the clothes you wear or make up
5: If they think that cis is a slur
6: If they think that gender is not composed of three to five distinct elements
7: If they think that being trans is a mental illness
8: If they think that being cis is a bad thing.
9: If they think that cis privilege has anything to do with someones’s sex or gender
10: If they think that biology says that trans women are male.
11: If they think that the points above are limited just to trans women, since we are talking about trans folk. Note that these are exemplars based on actual ideas held by people who hate trans people, and so the assertions are equally valid for all trans folk along the spectrum.
12: If they make an argument against trans women that features the idea of “male socialization”, yet never note the way this argument relies on racism because they don’t understand how it does so.
13: If they think calling a trans woman a man or male is not violence. Bonus: they are not only ignorant, they are also violent.
14: If they ever say ” it’s not like i ever go out of my way to message anyone ever and trigger them intentionally”, and pretend like their stuff doesn’t show up in tags or is reblogged or is said in public on tumblr since tumblr is a platform designed intentionally to make things visible to other people.
15: If they think that “gender abolition” is not a dog whistle for genocide of trans people.
16: If they think that bodily autonomy is great for women, but bad for for trans women by arguing that trans women have no place in the pro-choice movement.
17: If they are against sex work and never speak about how trans women of color are driven into it by the same forces that drive cis women of color into it and at the same ages.
18: If they think that trans women cannot be lesbians or that trans men cannot be gay men.
19: If they think that despite holding any of the items in this list they are an ally of the trans community.
20: If they argue that trans women represent a danger to cis women.
21: If they disagree with the term Cis.
22: If they think that Transness is a mental illness named gender dysphoria
23: If they argue that gender is a social construct but argue that sex is not a social construct.
24: If they argue against unisex restrooms because of risks associated with trans women.
25: If they argue for female only space instead of cis only space (these are two different things)
26: If they say they don’t hate trans people but use arguments that rely on seeing trans women as men, not only are they ignorant, they are also violent and hypocritical.
27: If they think that the treatment for trans children isn’t based on decades of research and study by experts in pediatric care.
28: if they think that Transness has always been a mental illness .
29: If they they think that trans women are just homophobic gay men.
30: If they say that trans women are not women because womanhood is not a feeling or identity
Any single one of those things is proof that the person involved has no idea what they are talking about and is actively engaged in worrying about the risks of, feeling disgusted or sickened by trans people or things around transness, fears being around trans people, or harbors an intense dislike of trans people.
All of which are forms of transphobia, an irrational mindset that affects their ability to accurately and honestly deal with the larger world around them.
People saying these 30 things are ignorant of trans lives, and so think that what they are saying has some sort of value critically. Since none of them are true, there is no critical value in the statements, since they are essentially making shit up as they go.
This is brought to you by:
AED (via tonidorsay)
I’m gonna go ahead and say that folks pushing for cis-only spaces are also probably really nasty human beings.